Bright girls

This insightful article on how girls and boys confront new and challenging material differently is one that many parents of Mighty Girls have found helpful in thinking about the praise and feedback we give to children. As psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson writes in Psychology Today, “[In] my experience, smart and talented women rarely realize that one of the toughest hurdles they’ll have to overcome to be successful lies within. We judge our own abilities not only more harshly, but fundamentally differently, than men do. Understanding why we do it is the first step to righting a terrible wrong. And to do that, we need to take a step back in time.”

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The key to self-esteem

It is during childhood that you develop many of the beliefs about yourself. Perhaps you grew up feeling like an outsider. Or maybe you had a parent who was verbally abusive. This type of experiences can lead you to believe you’re a loser or a failure. Continue reading “The key to self-esteem”

How Keeping a Zen Mind Can Save a Relationship

Rushing to judgment about another may only hurt yourself.

Three Zen masters—one from Korea, one from Vietnam, and one from the United States—have offered powerful teachings to keep us from rushing to judgment about others, teachings that can save a relationship. Continue reading “How Keeping a Zen Mind Can Save a Relationship”

It’s ‘digital heroin’: How screens turn kids into psychotic junkies

Susan* bought her 6-year-old son John an iPad when he was in first grade. “I thought, ‘Why not let him get a jump on things?’” she told me during a therapy session. John’s school had begun using the devices with younger and younger grades — and his technology teacher had raved about their educational benefits — so Susan wanted to do what was best for her sandy-haired boy who loved reading and playing baseball. Continue reading “It’s ‘digital heroin’: How screens turn kids into psychotic junkies”

Why Thinking Positive Thoughts Won’t Get You What You Want

Positive thinking is a valuable tool that can help you overcome obstacles, deal with pain, and reach new goals. The benefits of looking on the bright side have been clearly documented. Research studies have discovered that optimistic people tend to enjoy increased marital satisfaction, better physical health, and higher incomes. Continue reading “Why Thinking Positive Thoughts Won’t Get You What You Want”

18 Things Mentally Strong People Do

I usually spend my time talking about the bad habits that rob you of mental strength. After all, it only takes one bad habit to hold you back from reaching your greatest potential. But in addition to giving up those bad habits, it’s also important to perform exercises that strengthen your mental muscle, because with hard work and dedication, you can train your brain to perform at its peak. Continue reading “18 Things Mentally Strong People Do”

Love and Self-Love

One of the great and slightly strange dangers of falling in love with someone is how we may respond the day they start to love us back.

Some of the reasons we fall in love with people is because we long to escape from ourselves into the embrace of a person who appears as beautiful perfect and accomplished as we feel ourselves to be flawed, dumb and mediocre. But what if such a being were one day turn around and love us back? Nothing could discredit them faster. How could they be as divine as we had hoped when they have the bad taste to approve of someone like us? Continue reading “Love and Self-Love”

Traditional Gender Norms Are Imprisoning All of Us – Let’s Be Whole Human Beings

The world needs all of us to become healers. It needs us to nurture the sacred feminine and the sacred masculine that lies dormant to various degrees within each and every one of us, no matter what body we were born into. Everyone may express parts of these qualities, but we live in a toxic culture that forces men and women to cut off half of their potential being. Continue reading “Traditional Gender Norms Are Imprisoning All of Us – Let’s Be Whole Human Beings”


Collectively, we don’t understand the esoteric reality of interdependence. We see connectedness on the physical plane and are becoming more aware of ecological interdependence. But we are not generally aware of how different levels of reality interpenetrate, or how our attitude and consciousness can create inner barriers… Continue reading “Connectedness”

Savoring walk


As you walk, try to notice as many positive things around you as you can. These can be sights, sounds, smells, or other sensations. For example, you could focus on the breathtaking height of a tree you never really noticed before, the intricate architecture of a building on your block, the dance of sunshine off a window or puddle, the smell of grass or flowers, or the way other people look out for each other as they navigate crowded streets. Continue reading “Savoring walk”

The basis of life is freedom

The basis of life is freedom, the purpose of life is joy, and the result of life is growth. For me, this triad of freedom, joy and growth is the foundation of a grown-up spirituality based upon the new paradigm in science—a spirituality of unconditional love, in which we are sparks of an infinite and omnipresent Source of energy consciousness.  Continue reading “The basis of life is freedom”

This is how depression can affect a person’s day-to-day

Living with depression is difficult for numerous reasons as one experiences symptoms, including weight changes, disrupted sleep patterns, disinterest, apathy, etc. But a life with depression is evident in even more subtle ways. How is depression reflected in our everyday tasks? What tiny changes occur in the lives of those who have depression that end up dismantling their entire support system? Continue reading “This is how depression can affect a person’s day-to-day”

Emotional Baggage Tote

 Everyone has it; the trick is to carry it elegantly. 

We are all damaged in diverse, stubborn and interesting ways: someone humiliated us a long time ago; we witnessed bitter rows between our parents; we had anxieties about self-worth fuelled by comparison with a high-achieving sibling; an early business venture ended in disaster; we have a tendency to obsessive independence that makes it hard to live with anyone else; we have a rebellious streak which seemed cute at sixteen but now gets in the way of working amicably with others… Continue reading “Emotional Baggage Tote”

Some facts about bullying

Bullying is described in many books as ‘primitive’ behavior. What is meant by this is that it is often motivated by an almost instinctive desire to mask one’s own vulnerability by controlling other people. If you are top dog, then you will be able to get your own way, and other people are less likely to attack you. This will be even more likely to work if you gather around you a group of followers (or henchmen). Continue reading “Some facts about bullying”

Silence – The Power of Quiet in a World Full of Noise

We spend a lot of time looking for happiness when the world right around us is full of wonder. To be alive and walk on the Earth is a miracle, and yet most of us are running as if there were some better place to get to. There is beauty calling to us every day, every hour, but we are rarely in a position to listen. The basic condition for us to be able to hear the call of beauty and respond to it is silence. If we don’t have silence in ourselves—if our mind, our body, are full of noise—then we can’t hear beauty’s call. There’s a radio playing in our head, Radio Station NST: Non-Stop Thinking. Our mind is filled with noise, and that’s why we can’t hear the call of life, the call of love. Our heart is calling us, but we don’t hear. We don’t have the time to listen to our heart. Continue reading “Silence – The Power of Quiet in a World Full of Noise”

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