This insightful article on how girls and boys confront new and challenging material differently is one that many parents of Mighty Girls have found helpful in thinking about the praise and feedback we give to children. As psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson writes in Psychology Today, “[In] my experience, smart and talented women rarely realize that one of the toughest hurdles they’ll have to overcome to be successful lies within. We judge our own abilities not only more harshly, but fundamentally differently, than men do. Understanding why we do it is the first step to righting a terrible wrong. And to do that, we need to take a step back in time.”
It is during childhood that you develop many of the beliefs about yourself. Perhaps you grew up feeling like an outsider. Or maybe you had a parent who was verbally abusive. This type of experiences can lead you to believe you’re a loser or a failure. Continue reading “The key to self-esteem”
Neftalí, who spoons the water from the cloud to the snow cap, to the river, and feeds it to the hungry ocean?
Neftalí, to which mistable land does an unfinished staircase lead?
What does the wind give? What does the wind take away? Continue reading “The dreamer”
Somewhere in every heart there is a discerning voice.
This voice distrusts the status quo.
It sounds out the falsity in things and encourages dissent from the images things tend to assume. Continue reading “The inner voice”
Rushing to judgment about another may only hurt yourself.
Three Zen masters—one from Korea, one from Vietnam, and one from the United States—have offered powerful teachings to keep us from rushing to judgment about others, teachings that can save a relationship. Continue reading “How Keeping a Zen Mind Can Save a Relationship”
Susan* bought her 6-year-old son John an iPad when he was in first grade. “I thought, ‘Why not let him get a jump on things?’” she told me during a therapy session. John’s school had begun using the devices with younger and younger grades — and his technology teacher had raved about their educational benefits — so Susan wanted to do what was best for her sandy-haired boy who loved reading and playing baseball. Continue reading “It’s ‘digital heroin’: How screens turn kids into psychotic junkies”
Just look at my life! Should I be feeling gratitude, or have I been ripped off? Is the glass half-empty or half-full?I can complain that rose bushes have thorns, or I can be grateful that some thorn bushes have roses. Continue reading “Gratitude: A Healing Attitude”
Positive thinking is a valuable tool that can help you overcome obstacles, deal with pain, and reach new goals. The benefits of looking on the bright side have been clearly documented. Research studies have discovered that optimistic people tend to enjoy increased marital satisfaction, better physical health, and higher incomes. Continue reading “Why Thinking Positive Thoughts Won’t Get You What You Want”
I usually spend my time talking about the bad habits that rob you of mental strength. After all, it only takes one bad habit to hold you back from reaching your greatest potential. But in addition to giving up those bad habits, it’s also important to perform exercises that strengthen your mental muscle, because with hard work and dedication, you can train your brain to perform at its peak. Continue reading “18 Things Mentally Strong People Do”
In this Easter morning, let us look at the life we have been so generously given. Let us abandon the useless baggage that we carry – old pains, old habits, old ways of seeing and feeling – and have the courage to begin again. Continue reading “Easter”
One of the great and slightly strange dangers of falling in love with someone is how we may respond the day they start to love us back.
Some of the reasons we fall in love with people is because we long to escape from ourselves into the embrace of a person who appears as beautiful perfect and accomplished as we feel ourselves to be flawed, dumb and mediocre. But what if such a being were one day turn around and love us back? Nothing could discredit them faster. How could they be as divine as we had hoped when they have the bad taste to approve of someone like us? Continue reading “Love and Self-Love”
Each second we live is a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that will never be again.
And what do we teach our children? Continue reading “Each second”
For the first time, a United Nations report has recognized biodiversity and healthy ecosystems as essential to human rights. Continue reading “Biodiversity Is Essential To Human Rights”
The world needs all of us to become healers. It needs us to nurture the sacred feminine and the sacred masculine that lies dormant to various degrees within each and every one of us, no matter what body we were born into. Everyone may express parts of these qualities, but we live in a toxic culture that forces men and women to cut off half of their potential being. Continue reading “Traditional Gender Norms Are Imprisoning All of Us – Let’s Be Whole Human Beings”
The advertising world has targeted women by taking advantage of our lack of self-esteem in order to get us buy their products. The bottom line for most ads is, “You are not good enough… and you can only fix yourself if you buy our product.” Continue reading “Empowering women”
Your inner or true consciousness has no need of artifice or an aggressive stance with which to state its position. You could even say that it represents your sense of selflessness. Continue reading “Consciousness”
Collectively, we don’t understand the esoteric reality of interdependence. We see connectedness on the physical plane and are becoming more aware of ecological interdependence. But we are not generally aware of how different levels of reality interpenetrate, or how our attitude and consciousness can create inner barriers… Continue reading “Connectedness”
While the last century knew the devastation of two deadly World Wars, the threat of nuclear war and a great number of other conflicts, today, sadly, we find ourselves engaged in a horrifying world war fought piecemeal. Continue reading “A Broken World”
As soon as you look at the world through an ideology you are finished. Continue reading “Searching for a meaning to life”
HOW TO DO IT
As you walk, try to notice as many positive things around you as you can. These can be sights, sounds, smells, or other sensations. For example, you could focus on the breathtaking height of a tree you never really noticed before, the intricate architecture of a building on your block, the dance of sunshine off a window or puddle, the smell of grass or flowers, or the way other people look out for each other as they navigate crowded streets. Continue reading “Savoring walk”
Is feudalism, marketing itself as democracy, the underlying operating system for modern civilization’s social, economic and political systems? This is the hypothesis of those who describe current systems of governance, militarism and global economics as a mutated form of feudalism. Continue reading “Feudalism is very much alive”
A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. Continue reading “Circle of compassion”
There is a wholeness of my being
That I have come to know.
My life is the sum
Of my body, mind, and spirit
For I am immersed in a cosmic ocean of Life
Which connects my life with All,
And I am All.
The way we see the world shapes the way we treat it.
People everywhere are leaving little notes to make the world feel more welcoming.
It hasn’t been a great year for tolerance. But Daianna Karaian has a plan. Continue reading “Leaving little notes to make the world feel more welcoming”
The basis of life is freedom, the purpose of life is joy, and the result of life is growth. For me, this triad of freedom, joy and growth is the foundation of a grown-up spirituality based upon the new paradigm in science—a spirituality of unconditional love, in which we are sparks of an infinite and omnipresent Source of energy consciousness. Continue reading “The basis of life is freedom”
The Western monopoly capitalist paradigm that allows big money to chase after more for the profit of the few, using Mother Earth as a disposable factor of production, is neither sustainable nor logical based on modern science and natural law. Continue reading “Endless economic growth”
What’s the worst that can happen? It’s probably not as bad as you think. Continue reading “5 Ways Mentally Strong People Conquer Self-Doubt”
Human evolution is marked by a series of important differentiations, which are both normal and crucial for the development of consciousness. Each stage of evolution includes the preceding stages, and then adds characteristics that go beyond them, that transcend them. Continue reading “Human evolution”
The nature of ignorance is to lack deep communication with nature or with the universe. Continue reading “The universe is one harmonious whole”
Can we respond to the true nature of the environmental tragedy from just a political, economic or even ecological perspective? Continue reading “Ecological crisis”
“If you want to concentrate deeply on some problem, and especially some piece of writing or paper-work, you should acquire a cat. Continue reading “Concentration”
Living with depression is difficult for numerous reasons as one experiences symptoms, including weight changes, disrupted sleep patterns, disinterest, apathy, etc. But a life with depression is evident in even more subtle ways. How is depression reflected in our everyday tasks? What tiny changes occur in the lives of those who have depression that end up dismantling their entire support system? Continue reading “This is how depression can affect a person’s day-to-day”
Socrates once said, “I know one thing—that I know nothing.”
I heard this paradoxical sentence from a teacher when I was 15. It made such an impact on me that I have been using it ever since. To me, “I know nothing” means that you can always learn from everyone and everything. Continue reading “20 Life-Changing Tips”
Study shows negative people earn less money.
Do you think most people are selfish? Do you have difficulty trusting people, even when they treat you with kindness? If so, research shows your attitude may be affecting your income. Continue reading “A Cynical Attitude Could Cost You”
and all forms of
are caused by
too much past, and
not enough presence.
Everyone has it; the trick is to carry it elegantly.
We are all damaged in diverse, stubborn and interesting ways: someone humiliated us a long time ago; we witnessed bitter rows between our parents; we had anxieties about self-worth fuelled by comparison with a high-achieving sibling; an early business venture ended in disaster; we have a tendency to obsessive independence that makes it hard to live with anyone else; we have a rebellious streak which seemed cute at sixteen but now gets in the way of working amicably with others… Continue reading “Emotional Baggage Tote”
Recent research shows that frequent cellphone use impacts our communication more than we might have expected. Mobile devices can affect our level of empathy – even when we’re not using them. Continue reading “Cell phones and Empathy”
Only a handful of years ago, I didn’t really even know what resilience was. It wasn’t until I studied the concept during my master’s program that I realized that it can be taught and applied to many areas of life. Continue reading “3 Skills To Help You Build Resilience”
Let us be the ones who say we do not accept that a child dies every three seconds simply because he does not have the drugs you and I have. Continue reading “Let us be the ones”
Mindful meditation has been practised for thousands of years. Recently, though, science has started looking at its effects on our minds and bodies, and some important conclusions are being drawn from those experiences. Continue reading “Have you tried meditation instead of detention?”
Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. Continue reading “Christmas”
In 1998, John Wood was a rising executive at Microsoft when he took a vacation that changed his life. What started as a trekking holiday in Nepal became a spiritual journey and then a mission: to change the world one book and one child at a time by setting up libraries in the developing world. Continue reading “Room to Read”
A tale from India
Shakra, king of the gods, arose from his golden throne and peered down towards the earth. There were shining seas and pearl-like clouds, snow-capped mountains and continents of many colors. It was beautiful, yet Shakra felt uneasy. Continue reading “The Black Hound”
Bullying is described in many books as ‘primitive’ behavior. What is meant by this is that it is often motivated by an almost instinctive desire to mask one’s own vulnerability by controlling other people. If you are top dog, then you will be able to get your own way, and other people are less likely to attack you. This will be even more likely to work if you gather around you a group of followers (or henchmen). Continue reading “Some facts about bullying”
An iroquois tale
Two Iroquois boys were arguing. Neither would admit he was wrong. They were about to come to blows over this. Continue reading “The argument sticks”
‘Christmas is coming,’ people were saying at Rushida’s school.
‘What’s the best thing about Christmas?’ Rushida asked her friend Jane. Continue reading “White Christmas”
I was in New York the other day and rode with a friend in a taxi. When we got out, my friend said to the driver, “Thank you for the ride. You did a superb job of driving.” Continue reading “Love and the Cabbie”
After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand
and chaining a soul
and you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning Continue reading “After a While”
So many of us have shifted our focus from a quest for the external to a voyage into the internal. Continue reading “The Human Journey”
I have always lived in Schiedam, a town in a heavily polluted industrial area of Holland. Continue reading “Keeping the Earth alive”
Once a samurai came to the master Hakuin and asked, “Master, tell me, is there really such a thing as heaven and hell?”
The master was quiet for quite some time while gazing at the man. “Who are you?” he asked at last. Continue reading “What is Heaven, what is Hell”
A big cat saw a little cat chasing its tail and asked, “Why are you chasing your tail so?”
Said the kitten, “I have learned that the best thing for a cat is happiness, and that happiness is my tail. Therefore, I am chasing it: and when I catch it, I shall have happiness.” Continue reading “Happiness”
I spend part of my summer in the Chausey archipelago off the west coast of France. In winter, it is inhabited only by sea birds and rats and half a dozen men; in summer, by herds of holiday-makers and boating people. Continue reading “Another Level of Consciousness”
There’s nothing old-fashioned in trying to behave with dignity in your relationships with the opposite sex. Your body is neither an object nor a mechanism that you cannot control.
In a relationship, affection is much more important than sex. Continue reading “Open Letter to a Youngster”
We spend a lot of time looking for happiness when the world right around us is full of wonder. To be alive and walk on the Earth is a miracle, and yet most of us are running as if there were some better place to get to. There is beauty calling to us every day, every hour, but we are rarely in a position to listen. The basic condition for us to be able to hear the call of beauty and respond to it is silence. If we don’t have silence in ourselves—if our mind, our body, are full of noise—then we can’t hear beauty’s call. There’s a radio playing in our head, Radio Station NST: Non-Stop Thinking. Our mind is filled with noise, and that’s why we can’t hear the call of life, the call of love. Our heart is calling us, but we don’t hear. We don’t have the time to listen to our heart. Continue reading “Silence – The Power of Quiet in a World Full of Noise”